Back in the fall, I went on a few dates with a girl and then cut things off because I was not feeling much of a connection. I was very cordial about it, and pretty soon forgot about her. Fast forward about a month, and I get notified by a couple of female friends that I had been posted in one of those “Are We Dating the Same Guy” Facebook pages. This page is HUGE - I am talking ~250k women in my city are on this thing. The original post just said something along the lines of “watch out, pretty sure this guy is dating a lot of women” (which is untrue). The comments initially weren’t bad, with a lot of women actually defending me stating that she couldn’t be mad if we were not exclusive. Well I guess this upset her, because she then edited the post to say that I was in fact exclusive with someone while I was dating multiple other people, which was obviously entirely false. I was getting live updates from a friend the entire time. The comments that followed the edited post were horrific, with many of them being flat out made up. Someone tried to claimed I SA’d them in high school in front of my entire baseball team (never played baseball or talked to anyone on the baseball team). Another claimed I regularly sleep with multiple people in a day and participate in orgies. Another claimed I had had sex with them, and then told them I had to get home to my girlfriend when I finished. Stuff that was outrageously false. The post blew up quick, and not in a good way. At this point, I am freaking out and getting calls/texts from multiple female acquaintances who know me well and know that I’m not like that. I knew the person who posted it was that girl I had gone out with a few times based on specific language used, and I had not been seeing anybody else, so I confronted her and asked for it to be removed. Of course, she denied it, but the post was removed within 5 minutes of me texting her. All in all, it was up about 2-3 hours before removal. Before anyone asks, no I do not exclusively date multiple women at once, I do not cheat, and have only had 1 breakup that wasn’t very pleasant in the 6 years I have lived here. Fast forward about 7 months, and I am absolutely mortified to try and even attempt online dating, or any form of dating in this city. Everywhere I go in public I am terrified someone will notice me from it. Every time someone looks at me in the street, at the grocery store, at a bar, etc. I think it is because of that post. I know that I am probably being over dramatic, and time does make a lot of these situations disappear, but I have no idea how to try and move forward with any sort of love life where I am now. The metroplex I am in is massive, and like 90% of the single women are on this page. I am scared that as soon as I start dating again, I’ll just be posted again and someone might recognize me from the original post, and it will be round 2. What should I do? Just suck it up and start dating again with the mindset of it is what it is? I know I can’t control what people do on the internet, but I’m to the point of genuinely considering moving. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. submitted by /u/willienwaylonnme
Originally posted by u/willienwaylonnme on r/AskMen