Hi everyone, I’m not a big redditor, but I could really use some advice from yall. I just turned 26 and have realized I have low self-esteem and am way too hard on myself. I recently went through a breakup, and on top of that, I’m dealing with hair loss. It completely shattered me. I couldn’t stop ruminating, checking on my ex, or giving myself a moment of peace. I guess you could say I’m someone with a huge ego but low self-esteem. I do take action when I can because I want to be in control but sometimes things don’t go your way. I’ve realized that everything I’ve built (good or bad) was based on superficial things that could come and go. I never noticed this before because I hadn’t faced serious challenges. Now, when things aren’t going my way, I feel uncomfortable sitting with my thoughts, moving on, or accepting that physical aspects of me do not define me. My diagnosed OCD doesn’t help, but I feel this goes deeper. Yesterday I decided to hold myself more accountable and not get lost in my thoughts, as hard as it will be. I want to truly know who I am today not just what I do or what I own and stop caring so much about what others think. I feel like this is something I need to face now, not later. Does anyone have advice on how to reconnect with myself and rebuild from here? If someone asks me who am I , I’m unsure if I can give an answer I’m satisified with. submitted by /u/Lou157
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