Been single for some time by choice, on and off dating apps to give it a try. Been getting a fair amount of likes/interest, but just from seemingly the wrong people. For context, I would say I dress fairly well, and have a profile that is very catered towards my fashion, travels and hobbies. I would say I’m just fairly average in looks. I’m only looking for something long-term and not open to anything else. My problem is that everyone who has been liking me is very materialistic to put? Like in my photos, I dress nicely but not flashy, I have some travel destinations too, but a lot of the comments I get are more catered to people being like “Where are you going to take me for dinner (names expensive restaurant)?”, “We’re flying first class, right?” and remarks of that kind. Don’t get me wrong, the people are attractive, but I’m just not really looking for something superficial like that, given I feel my profile has some pretty descriptive prompts of what I like to do as a person. I totally get the difference between a flirty “So where are we flying next, etc.,” but the comments seem very intrusive to figure out my financial status. I am doing well financially, and to some degree, this is important in a long-term partner, and I can understand that, but it just makes me feel like, is this really all I can get or have to offer? Has anyone else felt something along these lines, and it sort of makes you feel like shit? I can’t help, but it bothers me a little cause I feel organically in person I have never had an instant where the conversations move like that. submitted by /u/Tho125
Originally posted by u/Tho125 on r/AskMen
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I think the concept is deeply flawed. I have yet to have an interesting conversation on a dating platform, it’s just performance so far and then I usually get tired of the performance and stop. I do everything I can to prevent matching with people who “like to travel” though, so I might get less of the materialistic part.