I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for six years. In the beginning, we had an amazing sex life, we couldn’t even get into the same bed without wanting each other. About two years into the relationship, his PTSD became very severe. After several traumatic events that made life significantly harder, his doctor prescribed heavy medication to help him cope. Ever since then, he rarely initiates sex, and he only accepts about 3 out of every 10 times that I initiate. I try not to initiate too often because I know he feels guilty rejecting me, and I don’t want him to feel any shame regarding his situation. However, with every rejection, I feel a sense of shame myself, like I’m begging every time I’m horny. I have a very high libido, and this has been difficult to manage. I try to take care of myself but at one point that makes it more frustrating. I’ve even tried to give him a way out because I truly believe attraction is both necessary and subjective. It is a completely legitimate reason to end things before they get even more serious. I don’t want us to end up as grumpy parents one day because I’m not feeling desired and he’s constantly feeling like he’s 'not enough. My question is directed to two groups: People who have struggled with depression/PTSD: Can you help me understand what can help a sex life survive these conditions? Partners of people with depression: Have you successfully navigated a similar situation? Should this situation be actively approached and discussed, or is it something that simply needs to be waited out? submitted by /u/Effective-Hunt-3947
Originally posted by u/Effective-Hunt-3947 on r/AskMen
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