My fiance was poly before we were together. He was married for 20yrs they had a poly relationship at her request. He ended that for one of his poly partners and was poly with her for 10yrs. He has two children with the first one and one child with the second. We have really struggled with him not having appropriate boundaries with other women. His best friends are previous lovers that don’t approve of, or accept him being monogamous with me to the point that they call it abuse, and try to convince him to have sex with others. He has definitely put in the work trying to get out of the poly mindset and try to respect my feelings on this. However, there were a lot of arguments, hurt feelings and tears along the way. It’s left me jealous, insecure, and overly sensitive. Yesterday I was having a REALLY rough day. As in a total breakdown and let him know I needed support. It’s not often that I ask him to focus on my needs as his life is more complex so that’s where emotional support is usually directed. This time though I needed him. We were on the phone talking about my day. His ex wife apparently tried to text and call him several times. Their 12yo daughter had walked several blocks to the mini mart without permission and mom was upset about it. When he didn’t respond she put daughter in the car and showed up at his place. So of course the call with me immediately ended. This is not the first time this has happened. Normally if he and I are talking and she calls he will end the conversation with me. If he doesn’t she just shows up. It is always related to an “emergency“ with their daughter. I’m trying to respect that. I have children as well so I understand kids come first. I had a great relationship with my ex. I think we co parented really well. I can’t really imagine that I would have shown up at his home for something like our daughter going to the store. Am I being way too sensitive because of the issues I’ve had with his other friends? What kind of relationship boundaries do you men have with your ex’s? submitted by /u/Opening_Coach_1945
Originally posted by u/Opening_Coach_1945 on r/AskMen
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