Hi everyone, I’m 19 . I have an issue with greeting and saying goodbye to girls my age. I had 2 female best friends when I was 15 and they basically introduced me to life, social life, how to dress etc. The problem is that I was really young and innocent. Between us 3 It looked as if I was either gay or we were in a relationship: "we always hugged, we used to lie down half hugged… idk it was strange but even if I wasnt complaining about (i mean from being a countryside child to having female friends that dont mind physical contact feels in a way like a blessing at 15) I never really initiate anything, I was just passively doing what they wanted to do with me. After that we fell a little bit apart but the thing is that i started to empower myself and I didnt want to behave the same way as before, I wanted to choose who to hug etc. I then got a GF and, saying I had a gf i stopped hugging every female friend I have even thought there wouldnt be anything bad about it regardless of the facts that i was in a relationship. Now i broke up and i still have repulsion in greeting girls if not with a cold shakinh of hands and a big smile… I’m now meeting new people (almost everyone is a girl and they are almost all my bestfriend’s friends). I often find myself not knowing how to greet them, handshake, no contact, hug? kisses on the cheeks (used in my country)… I never know so I started avoid 1 to 1 greeting but come on, I’m 20 I must be able to greet people… The thing is that I dont know whether this issues are coming from the experience with the friends at 15, from a self-imposed over distancing myself “because i was in a relationship” of something else. How do you greet people? Do you initialize the greeting or do you accept what it proposed from the other? submitted by /u/Appropriate-Net-6030
Originally posted by u/Appropriate-Net-6030 on r/AskMen
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