I recently found out I have a brother, which led me to also connect with my biological father. At the start, everything moved fast. My brother and I spoke daily for hours, he was engaged, made plans (like going to the cinema), and we met twice. It felt consistent and like he genuinely wanted to build a connection. Around the same time, he also reconnected with our father, and we were all in regular contact. It felt like I had suddenly gained a family. Then he went on a short work trip and said he’d be busy for a few days. It’s now been about two weeks, and he hasn’t replied to me or our father at all. What makes it confusing is that he’s clearly active — posting on social media, going out, watching our stories — just not responding to us. When I reached out once suggesting we meet again, he replied “sure,” but didn’t follow up. I’ve worked a lot on myself, and I don’t usually keep inconsistent people in my life anymore. At the same time, this is a new family connection, so I’m unsure if I’m reacting too quickly. My father says this is just how he is — that he disappears and reappears. From a male perspective: Is this just normal behavior for some people, or is this a sign of low interest in building a relationship? And how would you handle it — adjust expectations, or take distance? Hi submitted by /u/Timely-Manager675
Originally posted by u/Timely-Manager675 on r/AskMen