I’ve been seeing this guy (25M) since December and honestly, everything between us has been really nice. No drama, no games. We talk almost every day, we’ve spent time together, and I (28F) even flew to visit him in another country. We’ve had some really good moments. The confusing part is that we’re not actually in a relationship. But at the same time… it kind of feels like we are. We talked about it once, and he said it’s still too early for him and he doesn’t want to rush into anything. I also know his last relationship was pretty painful, so I understand why he’s being careful and taking things slow. One thing that might be playing a role is our backgrounds, I’m Christian and he’s Jewish (German-Jewish). We’ve talked about religion and cultural differences a few times, and while it hasn’t been a big issue so far, I sometimes wonder if it affects how he sees the future or commitment. Still, the longer this goes on (we’re at about 4 months now), the more uncomfortable I’m starting to feel. We’re stuck in this weird in- between zone: not casual, but not official either. He’s not acting distant at all. He shows me attention, calls me cute names, and I don’t think he’s seeing anyone else. That’s what makes it even more confusing. I’m just wondering… should I be more patient and give him more time, or is this one of those situations where things can stay undefined for way too long? Should I start a direct conversation with him about our future, or would that push him away? Would really appreciate some outside opinions from guys, especially if anyone has been through something similar. Thanks in advance. submitted by /u/EmergencyAd3494
Originally posted by u/EmergencyAd3494 on r/AskMen
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