I’m posting here because I’m not really sure how to approach this in the best way. My partner and I have been together for a while, and overall things are really good between us. We communicate well, and I care about him a lot. He’s 35, works as a software developer, and his job can be pretty intense at times — long hours, deadlines, a lot of mental pressure. Lately I’ve been wondering if that might be affecting him more than he lets on. One thing I’ve started noticing is that he seems to struggle with finishing pretty quickly during sex. It’s not something he’s explicitly talked about much, but I can tell it bothers him sometimes He’ll occasionally make comments about wishing he had more control, or that things “end too fast,” and I can see that it affects his confidence a bit. From my side, I’m not upset or frustrated — I just don’t want him to feel pressured or self-conscious about it. At the same time, I do wonder if stress, anxiety, or even just getting older might be playing a role here. I haven’t brought it up directly because I don’t want him to feel embarrassed or like I’m criticizing him. I’d rather approach it in a supportive way, but I’m not sure what that looks like in practice. For those who’ve been in a similar situation (either side), what’s the best way to handle this? Is it better to talk about it openly, or just focus on creating a more relaxed environment and let things improve naturally? Also, are there things partners can do that actually help with this, especially if stress or mental pressure might be part of the cause? submitted by /u/Eva-Garcia-L
Originally posted by u/Eva-Garcia-L on r/AskMen
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