Hey everyone, This is another post about friendships in Switzerland (I’m in Zurich). But instead of asking about how to make friends, I want to ask you “how are you as a friend?”. About me: early 40s, female, married, two small kids, 100% job, mild socializing 1-2/week (aperos, brunches, work networking), mildly working out 2-3/week, 50/50 share with household responsibilities I don’t have problems about getting to know people, I’m pretty outgoing and actively curious about people. I’ve joined multiple verein, expat groups, volunteering, workout classes. So, I could say that after living here +5 years, I have a big network (although it feels superficial). So, here is my question: what do you consider a friendship? Do you think you are a”good friend “ to others? Do you care? Asking since I feel like I’ve been giving a lot from me (and my small family) to nurture relationships. Only to see after months/years that while I’m continuously seeking to “be there” for my friends, I don’t get much back. We’ve all been experience starting something new so I empathize with the struggles that go with being in a new place, job, etc. I believe that I’m a good friend and “show up” by babysitting, cooking without announcement, listening. But then, I don’t receive this back. When I stop reaching out, I basically get ghosted. I’ve spoken about this with family members, other friends from back home and they’ve told me that this also happens over there. People are just not very interested in making the time for others. All I expecting too much from people that are already too busy? submitted by /u/LaMoucheSolitaire
Originally posted by u/LaMoucheSolitaire on r/Switzerland