Hey all 35M here I was a bit of a late bloomer and had to learn how to be okay on my own, so getting to this point wasn’t automatic. Now that I’m here, my day-to-day life feels stable, low stress, and honestly pretty great. Because of that, I’ve noticed my tolerance for ongoing friction is pretty low, if something feels consistently off, it’s very easy to just step away and return to a baseline I’m happy with. What I’m trying to figure out is where the line is between:
- normal conflict that’s worth working through and building on
- vs signs that it’s just not the right fit In other areas of life, I’m used to iterating through problems. But with dating, it’s less clear when continuing to work on something actually leads somewhere better vs just prolonging something that isn’t right. My last partner was incredible for 6 months, then rough for 5. It was one of the most nasty breakups I’ve had and she told me if I was unwilling to accept someone will be equally good and difficult, I’ll never find a partner. I simply disagree that any healthy relationship can be half bad and healthy? Curious how others who feel similarly about their baseline life think about that tradeoff. submitted by /u/WhichWolfEats
Originally posted by u/WhichWolfEats on r/AskMen
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