I think i’m just going to accept that I will always be perceived a certain way for how i present myself. being a gender nonconformist and having both masculine and feminine traits has made it that I give off a “queer vibe” to others. even if i don’t dress or act flamboyant i still get judged for being even slightly fem. it’s not even on purpose i have a natural “feminine“ look since forever and gradually just accepted i wont look stereotypically masculine. Then I get hit on by gay guys and in a way i feel a bit flattered because some of them are really sweet and genuine so i cant even really be mad about it. but then it gets to a point where its like…really? people just assume your sexuality based on how you look. After politely telling a guy i don’t swing that way and have a girlfriend the dude really said he was surprised i wasn’t gay. like the thought of a guy not being the poster boy for playgirl magazine is suddenly gay/bi. submitted by /u/rawrz4u
Originally posted by u/rawrz4u on r/AskMen