I am 18 female, i’ve never dated or talked to a guy in that way. As a child around 10 i lost the ability to walk for a variety of reasons including a botched correction surgery for hip dysplasia, and as such i have little to no ‘behind’ to put politely, and my legs are atrophied. (something of course very valued by most guys lol) I’m also only 4’8, so an often thought to be younger than my age and never feel ‘womanly’ if that makes sense. I have been bullied quite badly since then through school, primarily by boys. Some things i’ve been told along the lines of ‘only predators/ pdfiles are going to want you’ ‘i could put her head on someone elses body and it would be okay’ etc etc. The worst though is jokes about being vulnerable and ‘defenceless’ or easy to overpower. Naturally this is a concern for me and it just makes me scared- although i fully reject the idea of ‘man hating’ etc and i think most of what goes on both irl and discourse online today is degenerated and we should all love each other and need more God in society lol I’m pretty realistic and accepting of the fact that for many it’s a complete deal breaker, and i understand it, nobody is to blame. I have a male online friend (who is my age) and the sweetest guy in the world, actually the sweetest person in the world. I get the impression he thinks i’m fairly attractive from my face (obviously has not seen my body- and im reluctant to tell him what happened to me, its not really relevant when we talk and we aren’t going to meet, we live opposite sides of the Atlantic. And its quite nice to speak to someone who doesn’t see you as damaged, even subconsciously) and its things like this that kinda make me sad, just remind me that my chances of finding someone one day are immensely impacted, no matter what you have to give in love or devotion etc. I pray for a family and kids someday of my own but i understand that realistically the perfect guy for me could easily not even see me as an option, its sad but true, and i have never seen a couple where the woman is disabled Thanks all :) submitted by /u/ToeSad2570
Originally posted by u/ToeSad2570 on r/AskMen
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