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I’m(F 23) not attractive, I’m like a solid 5.8 when I put effort into my hair and appearance, and I never get approached by guys at all. I also don’t really put effort in my dating life either to the point that my mom is trying to set me up with her friends sons because she thinks I can’t meet someone on my own. The last date I went on was 3 years ago, and since then I just stopped going out of my way to meet anyone and focused on other things. If something happens I don’t mind but I’m not trying. There’s this guy I work with, he’s in a different area of the company. I work in the museum part and also give tours in the production area, so I interact with different departments. We never hung out outside of work before, but we text sometimes, and yesterday we hung out I’m not interested in him like that, we’re just friends and he’s funny and we get along. At some point we started talking about coworkers, and he said his department calls us the “museum girls” and they all have some kind of opinion or nickname for each of us like one they call Kittler, half Hello Kitty, half Hitler, another they say she has a nice ass, another is weird etc Then I asked what they say about me, and he said I’m the unapproachable one, and I was like what do you mean, and he jokingly said that if he told his coworkers he was hanging out with me, they wouldn’t believe him because they all think I’m intimidating and that I wouldn’t even give someone like him the time of day. I can understand that, im taller than the average woman and most men around here, and I always wear black suits only at work (it’s our uniform). They mostly see me when I’m busy working, but I didn’t expect to be viewed this extremely. As I was joking around with this guy last night, at some point he says, “I never would’ve expected you to be a softie and this funny.” So question to you men is, what can I do differently to appear less intimidating and more approachable? submitted by /u/securus02

Originally posted by u/securus02 on r/AskMen