My ex recently broke up with me. We were together for nine years. Our relationship wasn’t perfect, we made a lot of mistakes, and we’d been talking about breaking up for months. But she is, by all means, the love of my life. I know there are plenty of other people I could connect with, but I don’t want that. I wanted it to be her. And now it can’t be. She told me that, while it’s painful, she’s happy with her choice and accepts that it’s truly over. We were stuck in limbo for too long, and she couldn’t do it anymore. I understand her decision, but I wasn’t anywhere near ready to make it myself. In fact, on the day she broke up with me, I was planning to tell her I’d found a therapist I wanted us to see. I even offered that as a possibility after the breakup, but it wasn’t something she could consider. I just saw she changed her profile picture on one of her socials. It’s a photo she took a few months ago but never showed me, and she looks absolutely stunning. I know my grief will hit me in waves, and I know there’s a lot of pain ahead. I just don’t know how to navigate this. I keep having intrusive thoughts, sometimes explicit ones, of her dating someone else, and I don’t want them. Is this normal? What can I do about it? How do I stop thinking about all the things I should’ve done differently? The things that might have changed our trajectory. Why do these thoughts flood my mind now? It’s like I suddenly see all the things I didn’t realize before. I don’t want it to be over, I really don’t. But I know it is, and I need to find a way to accept that. submitted by /u/face-end-less-fear
Originally posted by u/face-end-less-fear on r/AskMen
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