I’m 22 and my voice sounds way younger, like 16 or even less sometimes. It’s something that’s been bothering me for years and honestly it’s starting to hit me harder mentally. In social situations, especially on calls (discord, etc.), I feel like people judge me instantly just because of my voice. Sometimes I haven’t even said anything meaningful yet and I already feel “dismissed” or not taken seriously. With women it feels even worse… I feel like my voice alone is enough for them to not see me as a potential partner. I’ve even had people tell me I sound like a girl, or ask me if it’s really my voice when they hear my music. Because of this, I’ve developed a lot of insecurity when I speak. I overthink my tone, I try to “adjust” it, sometimes I hold back and end up sounding weird or low energy. It doesn’t feel natural anymore, like I don’t even know how my real voice should sound. Music-wise, it’s also been a huge struggle. I’ve avoided releasing songs for years because I hate how my voice sounds. When I finally did release one, I ended up regretting it because I felt insecure about my tone. It’s like a constant mental battle of trying to sound more “masculine” and never being satisfied. I guess my question is: For guys who have a higher pitched or “younger” sounding voice… how has it affected your life? And more importantly, how do you deal with it or work around it? Any advice, experiences, or even just honesty would help a lot submitted by /u/ianco1206
Originally posted by u/ianco1206 on r/AskMen