I’m looking for some perspective on a confusing dynamic I experienced with my ex-boyfriend. Throughout our relationship, he was aggressively homophobic—using slurs, calling gay people “gross,” and being generally insulting toward the community. However, he once confessed that as a teenager, he frequently watched gay adult content. He claimed he “didn’t feel anything” and wasn’t aroused, but it struck me as a strange thing to do repeatedly if there was zero interest. On top of this, he struggled significantly with physical intimacy. He mentioned that during his first few years of being sexually active, he felt almost nothing during intercourse, which he blamed on being circumcised. He also harbored a lot of resentment toward women in general and was emotionally abusive, which eventually led to our breakup. I can’t help but wonder if this extreme “hatred” was actually a cover for his own confusion or if I’m overthinking it. Has anyone experienced a partner who used homophobia or misogyny to mask their own sexual identity or lack of attraction to women? submitted by /u/throwaway_aahc
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