I’m asking more in the emotional sense. I’m currently 28 and I very recently got out of a 3 year relationship. To summarize, it was because I’m emotionally immature and it was mostly my fault; I shut down during hard conversations, repeatedly pushed her away, and always got too defensive and irritable whenever she simply tried to communicate her feelings. I was looking into attachment styles and I learned that I am a textbook definition of an avoidant dismissive. Eventually, her patience ran thin and left and I don’t blame her for leaving. She was with me when I literally had nothing and was incredibly supportive. It sucks but I am learning to accept the situation and blame. As I approach my thirties, I really don’t want to go into a future relationship bringing old horrible patterns like this, so I’m coming here for advice. I should also note that this isn’t the first time this has happened to me during a relationship. Thanks for reading! submitted by /u/Kind_Opinion4181
Originally posted by u/Kind_Opinion4181 on r/AskMen