I over love yet I also overthink a lot. He and I have been talking for quite some time and have some future plans even at the early stage. He has a different religion so he asked me about my intentions in dating as “just dating” especially without intent of marriage is not really applicable in their religion. While this was new to me I still gave it a try. He is living and working in China while I live in the Philippines. As getting to know gets deeper, I learned how he is having a hard time in China as a foreigner, salary is low, rent is expensive etc. And we talked about of him moving here since he already has plans to move to a different country even before meeting me. I’m the kind of girl who backs up my word with action, when I say I love you or I like you I mean it even by helping you as much as I can. However, I also overthink a lot. Late replies would make my mind go spiral, at first he was patient and try to understand me but I kept expressing what bothers me but there is still a lack of reassurance tho he acknowledges my issues. Moving forward, he lost his VPN (some applications in China are blocked and can’t be used without it), our communication has been challenged there are days where he can only send few texts. Before this I also sent him money as my help because he was trying to save his money until next pay day because for me we are partners, and he was also there tho not physically to support me emotionally while grieving for my grandma’s death. But something happened that triggered me again and so I sent tons of messages again, and this time he didn’t reply. I was starting to accept that we are done and someone told me he posted in IG that he was on a camping trip, while ignoring me and tho mad I was worried that he still don’t have money to pay for his VPN. I felt betrayed and used. I sent a message today for the first time telling him he’s a liar and everything. But I still feel bad and thought was I harsh? It was not about the money I gave but Idk anymore. I would understand if you will blame me and call me toxic bc I don’t really know what to think anymore. submitted by /u/kapemocha_1993
Originally posted by u/kapemocha_1993 on r/AskMen
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