Hello Men, 18F here, and as the question above states, I need to know how soon is too soon to say “I love you”? Here is some context, because I know it is truly a case by case basis and I want to make sure you all have the best picture painted possible. I have been dating this boy (18M) for about a month now, and it hit me last night while watching him take a nap that I am in love with him. That is not something I have a singular bit of doubt about. I spent last night sort of trying to convince myself it wasn’t love and just infatuation, but I have an ex-girlfriend and an ex-boyfriend who I both dated for about a year when I was 15 and 16 respectively, and while I was fully convinced that was love, I can confidently say that I have never felt the way I feel about my current boyfriend before. He’s fucking fantastic. We had our first legitimately serious talk earlier this week and it was about my past relationships and the negative effects they had on me as I wanted him to know exactly what he was getting into with me. I won’t go into extreme detail, but both were abusive, one being a chronic cheater and the other being a homicidal addict. He was incredibly understanding and met me with a compassion I just have never experienced. However, despite this, I’m worried a month is a little soon and I’m terrified he’d think I’m odd for this. BUT, there is a little inclination I have that he feels the same way. See, we are highschool seniors, and we are going to college wildly far apart. He’s getting his education in our home region of New England, and I’m moving to Scotland for mine. When discussing what was going to happen to us come summer’s end, he told me he wanted to try to continue the relationship in college. I’m not sure if that is simply an indicator he is taking the relationship seriously, or if it is the step further than that, love. Please help me men. If you are older than me, I ask you to take a mental step back into the mindset of your 18 year old self whilst simultaneously balancing the wisdom you have gained in the growth from that verison of yourself. Thank you all SO much. submitted by /u/biynkie
Originally posted by u/biynkie on r/AskMen
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