I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 4 years now, and there’s something that’s been weighing on me for a long time. She doesn’t want sex. It’s not just low interest, it’s something she actively avoids. She’s mentioned that it’s painful for her, and I also know she has some past trauma, which I try to be mindful of. I’ve tried bringing it up gently, asking if she wants to talk about it or if there’s anything I can do to support her, but she usually shuts the conversation down or says she doesn’t like it and doesn’t want to discuss it further. The thing is, intimacy is important to me not just sex, but affection in general. We rarely kiss or engage in any kind of physical closeness. When I’m in the mood and try to initiate something, she often refuses and looks uncomfortable, like I’m pressuring her, which makes me feel guilty and I back off immediately. I don’t want to make her feel unsafe or pushed in any way. But at the same time, I can’t ignore that my needs aren’t being met either, and it’s starting to affect how I feel in the relationship. I care about her deeply, but I feel stuck between respecting her boundaries and being honest about my own needs. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you navigate something like this when one partner doesn’t want to open up about it? submitted by /u/chininas
Originally posted by u/chininas on r/AskMen
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