Hello! I (28F) have been seeing a guy (33M) for the past 2.5-3 months (since early Feb) and things have been going well. We’d been doing weekly dates up (8 so far) until mid April when he went on a weeklong international trip and I haven’t seen him since. He came back last Sunday and we have a date scheduled for this Sunday. Around date 6 (after we’d already been intimate) I told him I wasn’t seeing anyone else and asked if he was and said he wasn’t either, so I took it to mean we were exclusive. We text everyday but not all day—he works in healthcare and I’m sure his schedule is unpredictable. After the first few dates he would always tell me that he’s really enjoying getting to know me, etc but noticed this sort of stopped after we had sex. But his texts are still engaged, he asks me questions, initiates conversations, etc. I don’t know if it’s just that things are stabilizing and if he thinks things are more secure now? Since he left on his trip, I feel like our texting has slowed down a bit. Initially I attributed it to the 12 hr time difference but since he got back it’s been slow too. I can’t tell if he’s lost interest or if it’s a loss in momentum since we haven’t seen each other in three weeks. I feel myself getting anxious and constantly checking my phone to see if he’s responded. I would love more clarity in how he’s feeling about things between us and if he sees things progressing to a relationship (aka bf/gf) because that’s what I want. Is bringing it up on Sunday a bad idea or should I wait? I also want to suggest maybe spending more time together (ex. a lazy Saturday) instead of just dinner dates. I also don’t want to scare him off or come off as intense but I’m trying to date intentionally and find my life partner and just want clarity at this stage. Any advice or perspectives would be great. TIA submitted by /u/guccigurl18
Originally posted by u/guccigurl18 on r/AskMen