Football ⚽ I was always really supportive of this and went to every game, was his biggest cheerleader. I was the one encouraging him to move teams to be played and more respected he did. We even had our wedding reception there. And had a football themed wedding the first and second team played. Invites football tickets. He played every Saturday. Sometimes I wouldn’t just be for the lads and for him to have that free time to have fun. He played every Saturday. A massive part of his life then mine. But one game he got a serious leg injury… Left him not playing for 2 years. I was always still trying to be supportive and saying go help manage the football team go to games help out. Do your other hobbies. He didn’t and I didn’t notice the downwards spiral he was getting into. He needed an operation to fix the knee problem that he did get in the end. But in the 2 years he didn’t play I sadly found out he was gambling all of our money mainly mine. I still feel really hurt and disappointed and also disrespected. I never would have thought it tbh. I trusted him and he always looked me in the eyes and said money was good. But all my wages were gone. 2 years of lies. Just because he couldn’t play football and said he needed something to fill the void?? Even tho I asked him all the time please still go be involved and help your manager that needs help and wants your help. Any way money is gone… He went and got help and was doing group sessions and therapy. I thought the therapy was good and groups tbh. I really felt like it was life changing and helped us stay together. A few years went by, slowly he could play again. Felt like we got back to normal. We wanted a baby and had one. He put in a lot of hard work into our marriage. Sadly the pregnancy and birth was not good. But we do have a healthy little boy. He was still playing football during that time unless I was in hospital. After birth a c section I may add… he did Darts, Golf and football all at once. That becomes a little overwhelming for me and I was still on maternity not too bad but okay. But now I’m back to work, Monday to Friday the same as him. He does a morning shift I do an evening shift. So we hand over little man. We are meant to have weekends together. But Saturdays he has football??? After gambling and then the baby, football kind of has become something that pissed me off. Gone for 8 or 5 hours of the day. I’m on my own. No family time till Sunday basically one day a week. Just another working day. But asking him to be with me or to be together as a family. He gets grumpy he would honestly rather be at football maybe that says a lot about me. Or he doesn’t understand me and what I’m saying. I don’t get a break. I ask him if he can do something with our son on the Saturday morning before he goes so I can chill. He doesn’t. I’m just getting so pissed off. Anyway I’m probably just a bad wife being dramatic or something. I’m really trying. Saturday is a shit day for me. Feels like another working day of me looking like shit while trying to get the house and child sorted out. I just feel really resentful. Sometimes I wanna say you don’t owe me my money back but you do owe me your time?? The time you waisted fucking me over you could give back. I even give him free use and trying to be a bit more I don’t know I was thinking maybe sex stuff would make him wanna be around me. But I don’t really take care of myself so… Anyway fuck football. Even if I try to compromise about games well no luck there. A game got cancelled and it was sunny and exciting for family time. And he was like well I’m disappointed because I would rather be playing. Like okay I just try to not let that hurt my feelings and enjoy the day. submitted by /u/Round_Arugula7348
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