My question is to all of you nerdy men. The video gaming, book reading, anime loving, cosplaying, pc building, coding Trekkies and Star Wars fans out there. How do I attract one of you? I’m a nerd on the inside. Love to read, avid fan of Star Wars and Doctor Who among others (scifi is in general my favourite genre of movies), I started playing DnD last year (I’m not great and forgetful of the lore but getting there) and Sailor Moon is albeit the only anime I’ve ever watched but it has stayed with me since childhood. LOTR and the Hobbit are loved favourites of mine. Etc etc. Now of course I do have interests that are not at all considered nerdy like yoga and pop music. Now, on the outside, you could easily call me the poster girl for preppy. I mean I’m not wealthy or high class, I just tend to look like it because of my way of being and of dressing. No one would call me laid back and cool at first glance, but rather A4 boring and stuck up (which I’m not but I have a resting face ok?). When my friends suggest men for me to date, it’s usually men with slicked back hair in polos with a degree in econ who deeply care about investment portfolios or something. Not that there’s anything wrong with those men but not my type tbh but I can see why most people would think we go together. The few nerds (who are sadly already attached) that I’ve met so far in my life have been really funny, lovely men (which I understand isn’t exclusively because they’re nerds) but I really enjoy their company, humour and the similar interests. But in general, I feel like the fellow nerds are hard to find and date. Or I’m running in the wrong circles. Other times, the nerds that I find are more of the type who aren’t interested in relationships at all. What I’m wondering here is, do I have to start showing my nerd to the world more in order to find MY nerd? Should I buy the Sailor Moon t-shirt and read Dungeon Crawler Carl in public? If you identify as a nerdy man and you’re in a relationship, how did you find your partner? Is your partner equally as nerdy or no? I just really feel like you men are hard to find and likely not out on any dating apps either, but I could be wrong. I say nerdy with affection btw, I hope the term doesn’t upset anyone. submitted by /u/BWMartell
Originally posted by u/BWMartell on r/AskMen
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