I just turned 30, and as the title says I feel incredibly stuck in a hole which I just can’t seen to get out off no matter how hard i try. A bit quick background info: I got done with my master in game design, moved out of my very social student dorm, got broken up with, got out of my depression, stopped taking meds and moved into my moms apartment within the span of half a year, from summer to winther 2025. Now I’ve lived with my mom since January and feel like everything around me isn’t what I want, and it’s sucking all the life out of me. The best thing right now is my job, which I love. The living situation is sucking all energy out of me and I want to live in a collective or apartment with other like-minded young people. My mom is great, and I’m so lucky I can just move in with her, but it’s just not what my soul craves. She just sits at home most of the time, looking on her ipad, and I crave to go out, explore life, explore culture and meet new people. Be young and live life to the fullest. Yet the situation sucks out so much energy that I just don’t have enough to do all that. I think Im doing everything in my power to get out of this stuck mentality. I’m sending applications to living-collectives, and get into a lot of interviews/conversations with these, but I don’t feel like I’m myself or giving the energetic vibe I want tl give in these interviews. Which I think is why I haven’t had any luck yet with a living situation that I want to get into. I did get one yes, but the people there were older and not in the same social mindset that I am. Maybe I made a mistake saying no. I’m also working out, see friends, go out dating (which is a whole other nightmare in itself and also drains me sometimes when i get rejected, but also sometimes gives me so much energy when it works out). I try to go out of the house as much as possible. But the energy is just never there for that extra spark. It feels like I’ve lost a part of myself somewhere along the way, and there’s no way to get it back. I’m wondering if I should just go back to the meds, find a new momentary place, join a hobby group, volunteering or other stuff. But i just feel like it should be easier… Do you guys have any advice for a guy that feels like nothing it working out and no matter what I do I feel like I stay there same place? Am I not being grateful enough? Tldr: It really feels like I’m in an evil self fulfilling place, where I need a new social place to live in order to not be so drained, but in order to get into one I have to be energetic and at a place where I’m happy, because noone wants to say yes to someone who seemed sad at the interview… submitted by /u/remoulade4ever
Originally posted by u/remoulade4ever on r/AskMen