I’m 35, almost got married once. Back then, I had nothing to my name, just a ton of college debt. Since then, I’ve got my own place and 150k in my retirement. I’m not sure if it’s the dating climate or what, but I’m not meeting anyone worth half of that. I keep thinking how stupid it could be to fall in love, not have it work out, and now I can’t retire. Back then, I would have gladly gotten married, build a life, and sacrificed it if it didn’t work out. At this age, it feels different because I’ve done so much on my own. One thing that doesn’t help is that I’m geniunely happy on my own. How do you set aside the fear of losing everything you’ve built on your own? submitted by /u/securityburger
Originally posted by u/securityburger on r/AskMen
I’d check with local laws. Some states have it so anything bought/earned during the marriage is what is split so if it’s your house/money they’re not entitled to it but this can vary by location. Also, if you do a mediation instead of traditional divorce it can be a lot more amicable.