Looking for a guy’s perspective on this. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 5 months. We’ve been exclusive the whole time but never officially defined the relationship. Up until recently, things were going really well. He’s said he likes where things are going and sees potential. I brought up that after 5 months, I’d expect things to move toward a relationship or at least be more defined. That’s when things shifted. He told me he really likes me, but he’s concerned because he’s not in love with me yet. He mentioned that in a past toxic relationship, he felt love faster, so now he’s questioning whether the fact that he doesn’t feel it yet means it might never happen. He suggested taking a 2 to 3 week break to figure out his feelings. The catch is that his version of a break means being fully single. I told him I’m not okay with that. If he talks to or sleeps with other people, I wouldn’t be able to continue seeing him after. I suggested just taking some space instead while staying committed, but he said he needs to feel fully single to figure it out. So now it’s basically a standstill. He says he can’t give me a relationship because he’s not in love, and I’m not okay with a break where he’s single. From a guy’s perspective, does this sound like genuine confusion about feelings, or more like he’s just not that into it and doesn’t want to fully let go yet? Also, is it normal for a guy to need to be completely single to figure out if he wants someone, or is that usually a sign he’s already halfway out submitted by /u/kittykattz4
Originally posted by u/kittykattz4 on r/AskMen