Hi I am 32M, been dating a woman 52. Before anybody drops a mean comment, I make no apologies for dating someone older than me. I have always been attracted to older women and that’s my type so I won’t pay any attention to negative comments about that. I have been seeing her for just over a year now and for the past 2 months, her behaviour has been very confusing. She has said many times that she doesn’t want a relationship or friends with benefits but keeps in touch, texting/video calling me almost everyday while she is in her bed topless and makes sexual comments and responds to my sexual comments with flirty facial expressions and comments. A few days ago when I was with her at her place, she let me kiss and hug her but won’t let me go any further and when I asked her what was wrong, she said I already told you I don’t want a relationship. And yesterday while we were on a video call, she was once again topless and kept sticking her tongue out in a sexually provocative way. I put out a whatsapp status which read something like, “If you think I am gonna beg you for love and attention, that’s not gonna happen, There is always someone for everyone & I’d rather value my self respect than beg someone for love”. Once she read it & video called me, I asked her,do you love me and said while acting shy and covering her face, “Yes I do”. And today again she kept saying to me, “I don’t want a relationship and I love you in a different way”. I don’t understand her behaviour. If she doesn’t want me in her life, why she keeps texting/video calling and claiming to love me and when I insinuate that am gonna get on a dating app and find someone, she starts acting jealous and ends up teary eyed and says she loves me. I just don’t understand what she wants. I don’t wanna waste my time anymore with her but I have gotten so attached to her that I end up texting her asking if she is ok , how was her day etc despite being insulted and gaslit by her many times. Whenever I bring up our relationship issues, she starts rebuking me and saying things like, " You’re thinking too deep and you’re stressing me out". She shouts at me often and gets quite angry. She attributes her anger to her fibromyalgia flare ups. I am not sure how accurate that is. I have also asked her if she is seeing someone else and if that’s the case, just tell me the truth and I will go away and will be happy for her. But she claims she hasn’t got anybody in her life. Can I please get honest advice, what do you think she is trying to do? How do I stop myself from contacting her to protect my mental health. Thanks submitted by /u/Raz4479
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