My (24F) dad (53) has always had an extremely stressful job for as long as I can remember. He has worked at several different companies, but always doing the same type of work, and all I remember from childhood is him being unhappy and stressed 24/7 because of work. I’m 24 now and support myself, and my parents live on the other side of the country. Apparently due to layoffs and shitty management, my dad’s work stress has gotten to a point where he doesn’t sleep, is on call 24/7 and taking work calls at 2-3am, and he’s even had to go to the doctor several times due to high blood pressure and other health problems caused by stress from work. He recently told me that his stress is the worst it’s ever been in his entire career. He works weekends and hasn’t taken a day off in years. He also lives a sedentary lifestyle and doesn’t exercise much. I’m very worried about him, and I told him that decreasing his lifespan isn’t worth it, and that he needs to quit and work literally any other job. He acknowledges that he may be at that point, but no matter what I say, he refuses. My mom works full time as well, and I’m completely on my own. unfortunately I’m young and don’t make enough where I can support both my parents and myself, but there’s really no reason for him to continue working this job. I even told him that if he dies because of work it won’t be worth it, and he joked that if he does, my mom and I will get a bunch of money in life insurance. With the way his health is going, it’s really not a joke. I feel powerless and I know he’s a grown adult, but I don’t know what I can say or do to get the point across that this isn’t worth it. It’s starting to affect me and make me very upset, I really don’t want my dad to die, I’d be devastated. I’m also an only child, so if that were to happen I’d have to deal with everything by myself. I doubt he would take my advice seriously, being an older man with clearly very solid values about work (older generation mindset), but I need to find a way to get to him to change his mind before it’s too late. Thought I’d ask here for advice since I don’t really interact with many men his age and I don’t really know the best way to get to him. submitted by /u/aldann2
Originally posted by u/aldann2 on r/AskMen
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