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I’m F21 and I’ve noticed this pattern happen multiple times, so I’m curious what other people think about it. I’m naturally pretty reserved and not a huge texter. I’m attractive and I’m not opposed to talking to guys or dating around at all. I’ve flirted with men, had great conversations, and sometimes really good chemistry. But I also notice my interest fades pretty quickly. As time passes, if I’m not really feeling it anymore, I naturally become less engaged. I’m not intentionally trying to be cold or hurt anyone. But once I lose interest, I do become more distant. Usually I either let the conversation fade naturally or I’ll let the person know I’m not interested. What confuses me is that some of the men I’ve talked to end up blocking me on social media after I become less responsive or kind of “ghost.” What’s interesting is that some of them eventually unblock me later, and some still keep indirect channels open to watch me through. For example, I met a guy at a club and we danced together all night, exchanged socials, and texted after. He was clearly very attracted to me and very into me, but once I stopped responding as much, he blocked me. Another guy and I started talking on Instagram and we actually had great conversations, but to me it felt more platonic and I never suggested I had deeper feelings for him. Eventually I became less engaged and he blocked me too. There was also another guy I was talking to on Instagram where I was being a little flirty at first, but then I lost interest, stopped responding, and he blocked me as well. I genuinely wonder why some men react so strongly to this. Is it an ego protection thing? Rejection? Emotional detachment? Wanting control over the situation? Also, just for context, I would be considered conventionally attractive and a lot of people tell me I come across intimidating or hard to impress. So I sometimes wonder if that affects how people react when my energy shifts. submitted by /u/Any_Gap_5875

Originally posted by u/Any_Gap_5875 on r/AskMen