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I’m specifically asking boyfriends who don’t live together because husbands have a way higher level of commitment I guess. I’m in my mid 20s and currently in a 4 month long relationship. Girlfriend has decent income but mine is four times more (but I also have loans hanging over me - Total Amount being 5 times my annual income). I’m the one who spends all the money. Dates, gifts, activities etc. She has only spent a couple of times. Good cafes were okay at first since the dates were once a week but now that we meet 4 times a week, even moderate dates get heavy on the wallet. I’ve mentioned (unambiguously) a couple of times that expenses of eating out are getting too high. I thought that would be enough but so far she hasn’t really suggested going to cheaper places. I know the obvious thing to do here is to ‘communicate’ but I guess I’m waiting to see if she is a ‘wife material’ type girl or not who will mention on her own that ‘hey, you have spent a lot of money recently, let’s go to cheaper places/ this one’s on me’. Because otherwise she is great. Makes me a priority when it comes to spending time, checks up on me etc, very emotionally supportive. Not sure what I should do. To me it’s less about money and more about intention. I’ve always heard even girls like to pamper guys they really love. Here, she has decent income and no major expenses but still doesn’t pay. She previously mentioned that she bore most of the expenses in her previous relationship and this time wants someone to pamper her which was kind of hurtful. Like you want to spend money on other guys but not on me? submitted by /u/WorldNo4194

Originally posted by u/WorldNo4194 on r/AskMen