I’m turning 27 in a few days. It’s remarkable how much life can shift in just a matter of weeks, let alone a day. We recently ended things with what was probably the best relationship I’ve had. She initially called it a break due to stress, but the real reason was alignment or the lack of it. She wants five or six children; I want two or three. She wants to be married within the year, largely because her friends are all getting married. I told her honestly that I still have maturing to do, and that I want to find the right career footing first, especially after recently being let go from my engineering firm. The prenup conversation was the other breaking point. I have close to a million dollars saved, and I wanted to protect that. She saw it as a sign that the marriage was already doomed. When I explained my reasoning, her response was simply, “What’s the point?” That said a lot and made me feel she wanted me for the financial security. To make it harder, she lived down the hall from me. I ended up canceling my lease early and moving back in with my parents, something I couldn’t avoid given I’m currently without income. So right now I’m sitting in the middle of it all, trying to slowly realign. Inside, I feel empty. I’ve been leaning into my faith, spending time at a monastery, talking with priests, having lunch with people I respect. I’m grateful for what I have and I know I’m blessed, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t going through something of an existential crisis. Part of me worries I’ll never find the right woman. And now there’s a new fear layered on top: that my wealth will be used against me rather than shared with me. Was this my fault? Was I too afraid of commitment? She told me you’re never truly ready for marriage. Maybe. But something in my gut told me I wasn’t ready yet (I want to ideally wait till 30ish) and I think I have to trust that. submitted by /u/RunningFatKidz
Originally posted by u/RunningFatKidz on r/AskMen
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