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So there is a girl who gave me her number to shift from Instagram to WhatsApp. As she gave me her number, we started texting over WhatsApp daily, and I am a job person, while she is in college in a hostel. So she gave me permission to call and text her 24x7. Now the point is, we talked on calls and texts, and we both liked each other. One day she told me about her past, like there was a guy Anurag who was her kind of boyfriend type during school time, but he left her. She also told me about her trauma, like she was unable to get admission into IIT due to this and all, so I calmed her down, and she wanted me to stay with her and not leave her, and she loved me. So one day she proposed to me by saying “I LOVE YOU.” Now I also loved her, so I also said I love you to her and all. Now we regularly talked and called about everything and all. She liked me very much. We had little fights also, but after 4-5 days we started talking again with each other and all. One day I asked her whether we needed to leave each other because something was going on in my mind due to my personal past trauma, but she told me, “Don’t worry, I will handle everything” and all. Now after some days, when I started sharing one of my past traumas about how my last girl traumatized me and all, her next step was that she came with the point that she was telling me she would be just friends with me only, and she was remembering her old boyfriend, and then told me not to expect more than just friendship from her. Now I felt so sad, and by the way, at that time we were planning to meet in person or date, but before all this happened I felt very upset and I didn’t text her for straight 20 days. Now she felt so upset, so she sent me multiple messages and all, but I didn’t reply to any of them. She wanted to text me, but I didn’t due to some personal family problems as well. Now on my birthday she came and exactly at 12 o’clock she messaged me “Happy Birthday,” and I replied “Thank you” and all. After this, I knew she was sad because of me, so I called her, but when she picked up the call there was silence for around 5 minutes, and then she talked a little bit, then she tried to avoid my calls. On that day I called her 50 times on my birthday, but she didn’t pick up and tried to be rude to me, and she was so rude to me. She told me on my birthday that she had a new boyfriend and she didn’t want to talk with me. When I was not talking to her during those days, she started talking with some college guy who gave her so much bad advice and all. He was convincing her that I was a temporary soulmate and all. Now after the birthday I felt very sorry. I know I was not totally responsible for the whole situation, but still I was very sorry for all of this, and I tried to convince her. I tried to call her. We had many arguments and all, but I think she was sharing all of this with that same guy who brainwashed her badly and all. I tried multiple times to sort the whole situation out, but it never got sorted. She came up with new things like “I can only be your friend” and all, “Count me in” and all. That guy also made reels making fun of my whole situation and all. I wrote to her roommate through text messages and all that I don’t want to leave her, I love her and all, but she never replied. And when I told her that I wrote the message to her friend, she started lying that she never got any message from her friend and all. In the whole situation, after she shared her WhatsApp number, she decided to delete her Instagram ID, but when I was not talking to her she decided to make a new Instagram account. She deleted the Instagram account because she wanted only me in her life. Now the worst part was that we were not talking for months, and she was regularly posting on Instagram with her new boyfriend or whatever he is. Sometimes she tried to come back to me or call me, then her new boyfriend got upset or I don’t know. Now, after one month of no talk, I was the first one who initiated the text, but she didn’t. Then after that also she started refusing that she didn’t want to meet me. She didn’t want to meet, but she confessed she didn’t want to say this, she wanted to meet and all those things, but she was creating boundaries and she confessed this. Now one day I came to the railway station to pick her up. She wanted it indirectly, but she was not telling me directly that she wanted to meet me. Same when I told her that I was coming to meet her — in the beginning she told me okay, but then she started refusing me, saying no no and all. After this, when I went to her house, on that day I called her more than 250 times and sent multiple messages the whole day, and at night she messaged me, “What will I tell you?” She wanted to meet me but she was not there. Worst part: Now when I told her about my trauma related to how I failed during my school time and was bullied by everyone, and shared about my sexual trauma, she was fighting with me and all. She made fun of it and did not support me or something, and when I felt it was disrespectful and all, I told her I am not going and I am not talking to you again. I wanted her to stop me and hold me and say something, but she didn’t. After this, it’s been more than one month and she didn’t try to contact me, even though she is fully available on social media. She is posting with her friends, new boyfriend, parents, and all. Last week she was near my home, but she didn’t message me to come and meet or ask something like “How are you?” and all. She was posting some reels with deep meaning and emotional captions. I thought that was for me, but all this was for the new boyfriend. I guess he was not talking to her or maybe upset because maybe she was thinking about me, or maybe she wanted to talk to me. She was daily posting stories for him, and maybe he was ignoring her or I don’t know what it was. I’m just stuck. submitted by /u/No_College_9010

Originally posted by u/No_College_9010 on r/AskMen