I (24f) stopped my boyfriend (40m) during sex last night and he’s upset and says he may never have sex with me again. We’ve been together for two years and are planning an engagement for this August so I’m concerned. We were long distance for 8 weeks and have been reunited for a week and a half and only had sex once despite me wanting it, life and tiredness was getting in the way for him. Yesterday we got in a fight and he said “I’m not going to care that you’re upset if I feel that it’s illogical.” I wasn’t in a good mood after that but didn’t say anything. Before bed he said “turn around” and I let him start to try to have sex with me but it wasn’t going in because I wasn’t turned on at all. I said “you know it’s easier if I’m wet first” and he said “I know, I don’t care” and kept going. For context, I’m normally very enthusiastic and involved. But I didn’t make a noise or move much at all for about 5-10 minutes. He was acting like he didn’t notice and kept going. So eventually I started pulling away until he realized and stopped. Sometimes he makes jokes that, if he could, he would just clone me into a sex doll. So I made the joke “now you know what it’s like to have sex with an unresponsive doll” and he said “not bad.” I tried to explain to him that I would’ve appreciated if he waited until I was ready first and he said I should’ve said that more. But I thought that the mix of me mentioning that I wasn’t wet/ready and then being unresponsive would clue him in. Apparently it did not and he thought I was “just trying something new.” To be fair, he is not a fan of foreplay so we normally skip it and make it work pretty easily; I just felt that because our sex life had been so dry that we would have a more proper session. Ultimately he said it was extremely cruel to stop him during sex because he’s never been rejected during sex before. submitted by /u/lucydrawn
Originally posted by u/lucydrawn on r/AskMen