I work with a man who is a big flirt, and always has been with me (and other women in the team). He’s significantly more senior than I am, and in a relationship. I’m single although sort of casually dating. He’s made his interest in me very clear over the years and although nothing ever happened there have certainly been moments that I have too shown more interest than i should. Often this has been alcohol fuelled on both sides, which I’m not proud of. Nothing has happened between us but others have noticed the chemistry too. Admittedly I do have a crush on this man, and I spent more time than I should thinking about him. I never reach out to him unless I really have to and then keep it purely professional. I avoid situations with alcohol as best as I can when I know he’ll be there too but I can’t always. He’s still flirting, and messages are always multilayered (“I was thinking about you”). I took a jumper off in front of him the other day (wearing many other layers underneath not showing any skin!) not thinking anything about it and his interest was clear as day. I can read it all on his face. I’ve been single for a long time and would love a man to show this level of interest in me, he has many qualities I would like in a partner, but obviously this will never work. I feel like I can’t really move on though and am constantly walking on eggshells around him, while also secretly wanting that it would work because he is pretty great. Finding a new job would financially be a very bad idea because of the bonus structure that I work under for the next few years. It wouldn’t be matched elsewhere and in this economy it would be stupid to give this up. So I’m stuck working here for the foreseeable. I will continue to ignore as best as I can, but I can’t always. What do I do to get over it? submitted by /u/Southern-Gift-8336
Originally posted by u/Southern-Gift-8336 on r/AskMen
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