Piggyback from my previous post. What struck me from the answers were the men who stated that they wouldn’t know how to respond if a woman approached them. It reminded me, I’ve noticed exactly that when approaching men. This spiraled into me asking my girl friends about what they think about making the first move, have they? Etc. Generally, guys, we love it when you make the first move but I am rooting for you all and pressed the ones completely averse to the idea to entertain the hypothetical of making the first move. Mainly, how do they want us to ask them out? Two, more so if you’re late 30s - 40s, how would you respond to a younger woman (mid to late 20s) asking you out? Those of us that have initiated first all agree on one thing, you all stare at us blankly when we give you the green light by complimenting you or straight up asking to hang out. There’s this glazed expression that sets in and then you either: shut the conversation down (innocently), try to pivot it to something more conversational or give in a little but you don’t take the opportunity. Countless times too. What’s funnier is when you don’t really give a direct yes even when we can tell that you’re interested so, we either leave it or have to double down. Normally, if I am that interested, I end up telling a man that “I wasn’t asking” aka you, me and whatever suits me; then I am greeted with: I wasn’t sure if you were being serious, I didn’t want to assume etc. Sometimes though, it really is something as stupid as me asking your expert opinion on which protein bar is tastiest, then noticing your default choice and roasting you for picking a cherry protein bar over chocolate, the obvious choice, and trying to explain to you that if you were to live on the wild side and accept my suggestion, you’d feel better for it. Then, to have the guy say “I prefer cherry but thanks, maybe I will next time” and realise he’s missing the satire entirely sigh Me : You know, the protein bar may not have been why I started talking to you Him: Oh. Why did you come over then. Are you okay? Me: Yeah I’m fine! Are you? Him: Pretty good thanks. What should we talk about? Me: Depends. Do you like sushi? I know a place. Him: Nah, I’m more of a pizza kinda guy. Me: Me too, I love pizza but, seeing as you’re clearly quite slow, the next time you have pizza, fancy having me there too? He blushed and actually spun around to face the other direction lol. Spun back around and ended up asking me out. I asked what was going on in his head to not pick up on the signals? His response? “She must be really hungry. Maybe I should get her that chocolate protein bar”. 🤣 Also, apparently when you think a girl is out of your league, you assume she isn’t interested? Wish I could say we’re now married but, I’m single. Lovely guy though and proves my point. I have started an experiment to get my single girls to be more outgoing and snag a man. I reckon it’s going to be fun. The men of reddit, we may have started something new. submitted by /u/nexalune_goddess
Originally posted by u/nexalune_goddess on r/AskMen
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