I know this post is more suited to r/relationshipadvice or r/relationships but I can’t post this here for whatever reason so I’m posting it here as it’s coming from the perspective of a guy. Here we go: I (26M) and my girlfriend (23F) have been dating for 8 months, and we’re doing great, but there is something that I see becoming a potential issue in the future that I just wanted to get some extra opinions on. My girlfriend is a great person with many great qualities, but everyone has flaws, and hers is that she struggles to talk about things that bother her. This wasn’t an issue for me early on, but I’m now starting to see that it could become one in the future. My girlfriend struggles with a lot of things, like body image, finances, and living a chaotic lifestyle (directly driven by her finances), but whenever I try to talk to her about those things and offer solutions to help her (which are, to me, very obvious solutions to her problems), she breaks down mentally and doesn’t want to talk about them. For instance, because she lives a chaotic lifestyle and has a million different things to do, she gets tired. BUT she never goes to bed before midnight (she averages about 5 hours of sleep a night). So I suggested she try to prioritize her sleep and go to bed early, but she never listens to or follows my advice. Another issue is finances. She has a few expenses that either 1) can be very easily be cut down on and she doesn’t want to (i.e., buying tim hortons/starbucks coffee almost every day), or 2) need to be cut down on because they are a huge money sucker but she sees as essential to her lifestyle (i.e., leased car payments, paying two different gym memberships). As I said before, this whole thing wasn’t an issue at first, but now that we are considering getting our own place, I feel like we need to be able to talk about these things openly, but we can’t Does anyone have any advice on how to navigate this? Should I just stop trying to offer solutions and let her spin the hamster wheel, or should I encourage her to talk to me? For the record, I don’t force her to talk to me if she doesn’t want to, but I can’t just sit there and not say anything when I see an obvious solution to a problem she has. submitted by /u/Expensive_Guitar9864
Originally posted by u/Expensive_Guitar9864 on r/AskMen
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