I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years and I’m realizing I feel pretty emotionally flat about the relationship. She’s objectively great — attractive, we get along personality-wise, and when we’re not fighting I enjoy spending time with her. But I haven’t felt excited to see or talk to her in a long time. I don’t miss her when we’re apart. Sometimes I don’t even feel that bad when she cries during arguments, which makes me feel like a terrible person. What triggered this reflection was getting some attention from a girl at the gym and noticing I felt actual excitement again. That scared me a bit. I do still feel excitement in life — football, hobbies, hanging out — just not about dates or interacting with her. I’m open to trying to reinvest and see if doing new things together changes anything, but I honestly don’t know if this is just long-term relationship normal or if I’m forcing something that isn’t there. I’m not rushing to break up. Just trying to figure out if anyone else has experienced this kind of emotional detachment and what it meant for you in the end. submitted by /u/yxs16
Originally posted by u/yxs16 on r/AskMen