if this isn’t the right subreddit for this I’m sorry! I’m not very literate when it comes to Reddit and designated communities I just want some insight in a guys mind. This guy (30M) and I (29F) went on a few dates and we were getting along pretty good but all the sudden he shut down on me, I think I was showing I was getting more invested in this possibly becoming a relationship, and he didn’t seem interested anymore. Which would be fine with me except when I expressed that to him he said it wasn’t true. For a month he would text me every now and again and react to my snaps with emojis but I didn’t take it as a conversation starter because I figured if he really wanted to talk he would. He did ask me to hang out one weekend and when I asked for a time or a day he was vague about it and then didn’t text me again until almost 5pm on a Sunday afternoon after he had been posting about stuff he was doing throughout the weekend. I didn’t contact him after that because I didn’t appreciate the low effort and inconsistency. I posted a selfie on Snapchat about getting ready for a Cinco de Mayo get together and he saw it and reacted with “🥵🥵🥵” and texted me “wyd” and followed it if I wanted to come hang. At 9pm on a Tuesday night. I didn’t respond to him till I got home and I just told him “I’m good thanks ☺️”. He saw it and didn’t respond and when I woke up he had unfriended me on Snapchat. So I went ahead unfollowed him and deleted his number, too. I really did like this guy and wanted it to work out, but I’m not about to break my boundaries for his attention. As much as I hate to admit it, it still hurts me and I can’t stop wondering why he did that. He’s the kind of guy that post things and it feels like it’s indirectly towards me, like it feels pretty obvious and not just my anxiety talking and I’m a pretty oblivious person. Im just curious how a guy would perceive this, like did he unfriend me cause I rejected his hang out offer? Do you think all he wanted from me was sex? I’m trying to forget him and chalk this all up to a lesson, but I can’t help but be curious. Also, please be gentle, I’m kind of sensitive right now. Thank you! submitted by /u/Tanookin
Originally posted by u/Tanookin on r/AskMen