Today, I am 31m, and I have been broken up with a few months ago from a 4 year relationship. I have seen this way too common story from both female and male friends’ point of view, who, after some time, mostly the woman but sometimes the man, decides that the relationship is irredeemable, that they asked many times for certain things that their partner didn’t do. And that the partner is blindsided, surprised when it ends. Any kind of genuine actions from the dumpee are taken too late in those cases, even before the breakup. In some cases, I feel like the dumpee partner genuinely checked out already, or doesn’t have some basics in parts of their life, which I understand. In some others, well, I couldn’t say that I was perfect, but to say that I rested on my ears would feel wrong. It would be a denial of the fact that I genuinely acted towards the happiness of my ex partner. I can’t deny my mistakes, but refuse to do as if I have been sitting on my couch waiting to be broken up with. No, I worked and invested in this relationship, even if I am the only one believing it. Even if my female friends tell me there must be good reasons no matter what. I fought to try to make it work. But it also means that nothing I can ever do will be enough in a future relationship, that any mistake i do or things I forget are the tickings of the clock towards the end of a relationship. I cannot even imagine myself in a new relationship, knowing that there is no way anything I do could be satisfying enough. It also means that the moment I feel accepted, I would doom the relationship. submitted by /u/SuperCorridor
Originally posted by u/SuperCorridor on r/AskMen
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