I am M22 and this is why I find difficulty in doing chores with my mom on whom I am financially dependent : She is micromanaging and constantly yapping not keeping her mouth shut. How I should do this and that , The problem is not that she assesses it , the problem is that it is more on a real time basis rather than later checking the quality of my work. And I have worked before and even if I had a big issues with the management and the HR team while leaving the work due to medical issues , I still find it better than doing chores at home. That 9.5 hour shift was way better than helping 1 hour in chores and I was in customer service so I used to deal with a lot of shit and angry people yet that was better. The reason was simple my superior never micromanaged me like her , they let me ‘DO MY JOB’ and even if they were critical rarely it was constructive. My moms criticism is often over exaggerated and emotional over small things , the way she criticizes me is as if I had ruined her life because I made a small mistake. Its just the way she speaks. When I was in school , she made it sound that if I am not a straight A student , I will be begging on streets, same in college, same everywhere ,she made me grow up way before my time. I am recovering from the medical illness , was in ICU and rn focusing on completing my bachelor within few months and then get a job or internship owing to my health and exams proximity. I don’t know if she is right or wrong , but I did feel walking around egg shells with her. I know that she means good to me and has raised me alone but I could never find a peace with the way she parented and talks to me. And I tried talking to her. Many people on reddit have previously said I need grow up and move out , Even if you say I am in wrong ok , but how do I build the tolerance level when I get emotionally hurt , I feel what I feel can’t change it. And add on : I know for a fact that mom often justifies and plays victimhood in her mind Because dad doesnt contribute properly in house Because she has financial responsibilities and we dotn have a house or home (Again bcz of alck of financial planning of theirs) Now I can improve these situations and neither it is my fault I am trying to just get my life straight and she is indirectly making it very difficult. submitted by /u/Monk_in_process
Originally posted by u/Monk_in_process on r/AskMen
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