Currently, I’d consider myself a pretty socially confident guy but there’s definitely noticeable parts where I’m lacking. I’m a bit soft spoken, was a gamer for most of my adolescent life so I had to learn social skills quite late (late high school early college). Didn’t quite get a social circle until around that time. I’ve been having pretty good success with women lately, sex is not a scarcity anymore. In pretty good shape, workout 3-4 times a week, bodybuilding (about 12 years in, 5’8 205 lb prob 15% bodyfat if I had to guess. My only thing is I just don’t feel like I can be assertive. My FWB notices when we’re having sex that I’m not as aggressive/dominant, and shes encouraging me to be more assertive in the bedroom. This is a bit embarrassing just in general, as I feel like as a man I should naturally be more aggressive/assertive by nature, but I’m having to actively learn these things. I notice I’m sort of a people pleaser, I try to get people to like me, occasionally even at my own expense. I wouldn’t say I do it in a low self esteem type of way, where people walk all over me, but more of an overly accommodating type of way. Does anyone have any experience dealing with this? I just feel like I don’t have it in me to be more “manly”. My testosterone results came out to ~525 which I guess isn’t that high for 29. I’ve been making micro-adjustments like avoiding microplastics, weightlifting regularly and intensely, sleeping 8-9 hours a day, eating fruits/vegetables. I was big into the “no-fap/semen retention” thing a few years ago, but apparently alot of it’s been debunked that its purely psychological, so I’ve kinda phased out of that. TL;DR Good socially, but not very assertive, how do I improve this? If you got this far, thanks for reading this rant,. Pretty Open to any advice. submitted by /u/Slide4Ukraine
Originally posted by u/Slide4Ukraine on r/AskMen
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