I’m in my early-mid 20s, I’ve never been in a relationship. I haven’t had women show interest in me because I am unattractive. I don’t say that for sympathy, I have had many people throughout my life say something to the effect of “you’ll never have a significant other” or “the fact that your single is unsurprising” but in much harsher tones. These comments were unprovoked, meaning I did not say anything negative to these people to warrant these comments. Even my step-father made a similar such comment in front of my mother and I but directed at my lack of friendships in general, effectively saying that no one would want to hang out with someone that looked like me. My step-sister is also very harsh, in fact, there are even more stories but the more I recall the more I want to stop looking back. They are not wrong in thinking this. I am slightly below average height, very round face with weak chin despite not being fat, big nose and very noticeable facial asymmetry with my eyes not being level and one of them being a lazy eye and of course eye bags despite good sleep. The asymmetry was so bad my mom noticed and tried blaming it on me somehow. Despite this, I am well adjusted personality wise in my white collar career since I work well with my colleagues at the two companies I have worked at and my managers have praised my work. I feel like that explanation was necessary because ever since I turned 20, I have gotten non-stop comments either family or family friends about “I’ve been going to church praying that you get a girlfriend”, “when you get married” (said as if it’s a a given), “when you have kids” (said in a conversation not related to relationships or kids), “wow nice [insert big milestone/accomplishment], now it’s time to get a girlfriend”, “I had a dream that were holding a baby” and similar comments that revolve around the same idea. It’s exhausting, I can’t take this anymore. I just hit a big milestone by buying my own car and EVERY SINGLE FUCKING PERSON THAT CONGRATULATED ME HAD TO FUCKING INCLUDE A FUCKING COMMENT ABOUT NOW BEING THE TIME TO GET A GIRLFRIEND. I even asked my mother to stop making these types of comments a couple of years ago and now she is back making them. What can I do? Do I just leave immediately after finishing university and cut off contact with my family until they hopefully understand and stop these comments? I want out, today was my breaking point, it feels like every week I get these types of comments. submitted by /u/JMER
Originally posted by u/JMER on r/AskMen