I’ve played sports since I was a kid and now in college I go to the gym a few times a week, so I’m used to see other guys without clothes on. I don’t plan to stare much, but even when they’re shirtless or have t-shirts or pants I either see really hairy dudes, smooth ones (either genetics or waxing) or normal amount of body hairs, and I can’t help but feel self-conscious. In my family it’s like we’re pieces of a puzzle, in my case I complete my dad other half. My father has an hairy chest and an hairy back, quite fuzzy, like a bear, really good beard genetics (although of a completely different color, salt and pepper black hair and reddish/ginger beard, he also has eyes that are a mix of green and brown so maybe he’s part Ed Sheeran.), but his legs are smoother than a baby, like really fine hair, I have seen my sister in the winter before shaving in the shower and she had thicker hairs on her legs than him. He’s also naturally big, he has muscles from his physically demanding blue collar job, but his chest is barrel, his shoulders are broad, and he has zero ass, like his legs and torso feel a single piece, no curve on his glutes, completely flat, his legs despite being muscular are also slim (guess he skips leg day). Then there’s me, the opposite of my dad. My face is so androgynous it could pass for a woman, no Adam apple, long lashes to the point girls asked me if I was wearing mascara or eyeliner, not that there’s anything wrong with it, but they either think I’m lying or are jealous, in high school I used to have long hair, and was really skinny and short from never leaving the house and playing videogames so that didn’t help, now I have short hair, faint abs and a slim lean body from working out, often wear flannel shirts and glasses to class so I look like a lesbian, not my words, a friend said it to me and it made me laughed I don’t know why. I cannot grow a beard for two reasons (hairs grow slowly, I have patches and holes, during COVID-19 I didn’t bother shaving with a razor or use clippers to groom it shorter and it had two naked spots so I gave up, either clean baby face that makes people ask me for my ID to buy beer or faint stubble). My chest is also really smooth, my back has no trace of hairs, but then… From the waist down, including legs and butt (which are both big, I have childbearing hips, no belly fat or love handles as you can see my ribs and feel my bones, they’re just like that I guess, and I have a round butt but a slim torso which means, despite being shorter that my dad and weighing a lot less than him our pant size are basically the same) my body said “fuck you”, I am really hairy I can braid my legs. Both for hygiene and for aesthetic reasons I either get waxed, shave or at least keep them short with a pair of hair clippers, the butt thing is self-explanatory (don’t want pieces of toilet paper or worse stuck on my butt, I also have a bidet both at my home and college dorm and I don’t enjoy the sensations of hairs around my fingers while I wash myself), for the leg part, in the winter I don’t bother, but during summer it’s weird to walk around in shorts or swimsuit looking like I’m wearing hairy leggings. It’s just, my upper and lower half don’t match, it’s weird and I guess it’s genetics but it’s annoying. And I don’t know, I wanted to ask if others are like that, I got used to it, I just have to groom myself more than the average guy as a result to look nice, all of my friends don’t have this issue, they’re either a bear or a werewolf, a normal amount of hair, or smooth as a baby, not this weird half thing. submitted by /u/Typical-Risk-4729
Originally posted by u/Typical-Risk-4729 on r/AskMen