I’ve been in a relationship for a while with someone who has a chronic illness that can drastically affect their day-to-day life depending on the day. Some days are manageable, and other days are really hard for them physically and mentally. The problem is that I’m a very active person. I like being out, doing things, traveling, exercising, being spontaneous, etc. Over time, I’ve realized there are a lot of things I either don’t do anymore or can’t really do with them because of the illness and unpredictability of it all. We live together, and lately I’ve noticed it’s starting to take a toll on me emotionally. I find myself trying to constantly keep busy or stay distracted so I don’t get frustrated by the limitations the illness puts on our relationship and lifestyle. I feel guilty even admitting that because I know it’s not their fault. What makes this hard is that I genuinely enjoy being with them as a person. I love their company, our connection, and who they are. But I’m struggling with the reality of what the illness means for our daily life and future together. I feel conflicted because I don’t want to sound selfish or unsupportive, but at the same time I’m starting to feel emotionally drained and restricted in ways I didn’t expect. I’m wondering if anyone else has been in a relationship like this and how you handled the balance between supporting your partner and still feeling fulfilled in your own life. submitted by /u/Competitive_Border63
Originally posted by u/Competitive_Border63 on r/AskMen