genuine question for men: if your friends constantly talked badly about your girlfriend, would you drop them, defend her, or just let it happen? i’m asking because i genuinely don’t know if i’m overreacting anymore. my boyfriend (probably about to be my ex at this point) tells me his friends and even friends of friends say things like “you can do better” or “find a prettier girl.” he says he gets mad and defends me and tells them he already found his wife, which is me. but then he comes back and tells me the things they said and it honestly hurts so much. maybe i’m doing it to myself because sometimes he’ll say “i had an argument with someone” and then say “i don’t wanna hurt your feelings,” and i end up begging him to tell me because my mind starts overthinking. then i hear what was said and it just sits in my head for days. one thing that really got to me was some guy he isn’t even close with saying “at least i don’t date indians.” i’m not even indian, but that’s not even the point. the point is why are people comfortable saying weird disrespectful things about me when they barely even know me? i’m starting to feel like i’m being judged by people i’ve never even met. it makes me feel ugly, unwanted, and honestly embarrassed for no reason. i keep wondering if i’m supposed to just accept that this is how his friend group is because he says he’s known them for 10 years and can’t just drop them. i’m not even asking for him to cut off everyone in his life. i just want to know: if people around you constantly disrespected your girlfriend, what would you actually do? submitted by /u/Content-Post-174
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