I (male) am kind of stuck in a situation with my girlfriend and I honestly don’t know how to handle it. From the start of our relationship, I’ve basically always been the one initiating intimacy. There has been countless times she shut me down or wasn’t in the mood, which I respect. On top of that, she’s in med school, so I’ve also been trying to give her space and not add pressure when she’s stressed or tired. But recently she told me she feels like I don’t want her anymore or that I’m not interested in her the same way. That really confused me because the reality is the opposite—I do want her, a lot. The issue is that after being told I can be “too forward” in the past, I started holding back because I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable or pressure her. So instead of initiating as much, I’ve been more careful. Now it feels like that hesitation is being interpreted as me losing interest, which isn’t true at all. I also want to be honest—I’m a guy with a pretty high sex drive, so hearing that I “don’t want her” was frustrating, especially since I’ve been the one initiating most of the time and dealing with rejection. I’m not trying to blame her or start a fight. I just feel like we’re misreading each other and getting stuck in a weird loop Has anyone dealt with something like this? How do you communicate interest without making your partner feel pressured, while also not feeling like you have to completely shut yourself down? submitted by /u/SinCara999
Originally posted by u/SinCara999 on r/AskMen