So, lately I have been thinking that when I start liking someone (usually I don’t know the person, just notice him frequent the same places as me) I am mostly fantasizing about them sexually and I am not wondering if I want a relationship with them or making up any type of scenarios of being boyfriend and girlfriend, like, at all! Am trying to pursue them only sexually and if that happens and it goes well then I start to wonder if I like that person and if I’d wanna go on a second and “normal” date with them. My two biggest relationships have started that way , it seemed weird to them at the first dates but when they got to know me they thought I was fine - just hornier 😅 Some months ago I dated a guy, for about 6 months, that was kinda turned off by that and it kinda went downhill from there. I thought we weren’t really a good match anyway and didn’t really thought about it then. Lately I think it got to me a little, Ive gotten a bit older now - am in my 30s - and I understand a lot of people want to settle down and take things more seriously. Thing is, I want a relationship as well, but that’s how it usually works for me. The thing goes like this : we meet in a more private setting like my house , we talk a little, things turn heated kinda early, we have sex, usually I spent the night with said person, I like hugging them when we sleep, we wake up, we talk, make some breakfast, go for a coffee and if I see that I truly like the person (most times, instinctively, I know that I will) then we go on more dates and eventually have a relationship. How unusual do you find that? When you like a woman do you fantasize about a relationship or mostly lustful stuff? Would you find that behaviour weird or…? submitted by /u/_naoko_7
Originally posted by u/_naoko_7 on r/AskMen