28M here. This is a post I’m wondering and it kinda makes me a little upset knowing the other men I’ve been around irl never do this…makes me feel so damn lonely sometimes. One guy I met at the lake got him on snap, asked him to go paintballing, he said he was busy. Asked him twice over two years if you wanted to go fishing. BUSY…SNAP LEFT UNOPENED…Saw him at the lake few years later by himself. One guy I asked if he wanted to fish, he said he didn’t fish but was open to it. I had a c8 for a few days asked him if he wanted to chill, he said he had to check w family and work, never got back to me. I apologized to him, saying didnt want to bother you if your busy. GHOSTED. Asked someone for their social at the skatepark hit him up recently left unanswered after a few messages…literally just asked him if he’s been to the skatepark this year. LEFT UNANSWERED Maybe it’s the type of people I’m viewing at potential friends the “immature” type… But I always had that drive in me if I see someone potentially more successful then me always approach them and network. Do the people I’m approaching who skateboard or go fishing and see someone who is potentially better in that skill view me as a threat? I have right now only one person I can talk to on a reoccurring basis and I met him from TikTok. I think men need other men to learn and level up off of…just all the other men I’ve been around never put in the work to learn or want to have fun being a MAN… I’m only 29 rn and trying hard to make friends, fishing, paintballing, hockey just seems like it’s hard to make friends in those similar sports. Still trying and showing up to places to potentially make that ONE special friend who is down for the ride… just seems like other men don’t like competition or it might be fear? Would like to know others opinions submitted by /u/brian-augustin
Originally posted by u/brian-augustin on r/AskMen