My bf (29M) and I (30F) have been together for over 2.5 years. Unfortunately he cheated on me in the first year, which was very difficult but I decided to forgive him. He tried his best to win back the trust, gave me his location, reassured me etc. things have still been up and down. His work means he’s travelling to different countries some times and initially he said he would take me which him but now work logistics don’t allow that. Recently he’s asked me not to come to his work parties anymore because he thinks other men will try it on with me. Which has caused so many arguments between us. Cos I sit at home and struggle with anxiety. He also said he just wants time with him mates which I understand but I didn’t like that he doesn’t want to take me because of other men. Another thing is that if his friends call he would notify them that I’m in the room and when I asked he said he doesn’t want their private convo or dirty laundry to be aired and I said we literally share everything between us. After an argument he said he won’t do that again. Recently his friend called and he tried to turn the volume of his phone down so I can’t hear, initially he said it was because it would distract me but I didn’t believe that and eventually he said he’s because his friend might have said something stupid like ‘oh that girl is fit’ and he knew it would set me off. Anyway he said he’s tired of me policing him and that I’m causing him mental stress and that he’s done everything in his power to work this out but he’s lost hope that I will ever change submitted by /u/orangecandy234
Originally posted by u/orangecandy234 on r/AskMen